Dear Birth Parents: We hope the following helps give you a clear picture of our family and why we feel passionately about adopting another child. After meeting each other through a mutual friend, Ed and I began dating ten years ago. Just prior to our relationship, I had filled out the paperwork to begin the process of adopting a child from China.
We don't want to presume what you are thinking.But our family wants you to know that just as we did with the donor mother who helped us with our IVF process we will always love and appreciate you. There are many wonderful families seeking to adopt a child. With luck you will find the right one. Trust your instincts. If something I wrote resonates with you or touches your heart, let’s talk to see if we are a match and let our journey together begin.
Dear Birth Parents: We hope the following helps give you a clear picture of our family and why we feel passionately about adopting another child. After meeting each other through a mutual friend, Ed and I began dating ten years ago. Just prior to our relationship, I had filled out the paperwork to begin the process of adopting a child from China. Ed fully supported my strong desire to be a parent through this process, even before we were married in 2009. Sadly, for people like us whose applications were accepted, the wait for a child from China lengthened. Ed and I started an IVF process to conceive our children. We were blessed with our boys, Brooks in 2010 and Russell in 2012. Unfortunately, shortly after his birth Russell was diagnosed with a serious degenerative genetic disorder. Our incredible little boy never could crawl or speak, but he had a tremendous desire to live and to be held in our hands, and fed with a bottle. He passed away this past March at age three and one-half. Even though his passing brought us tremendous sadness, we continue to strive to feel the good in each other, to live each day fully, to rest when needed and to seek out life’s pleasures. We mostly succeed. Recognizing the preciousness of our time together as a family, we seek to include Brooks in all our family activities, as we did with Russell as well. We explore nature trails, take brief family trips and cheer Brooks on when he plays kidball. I remain passionate about the work I once did as an attorney on behalf of immigrants who were victims of domestic violence or human trafficking. But right now the bulk of my energy and passion is directed toward our family and being a stay at home mom. Ed works as a writer and a teacher. For many years, Ed worked at NASA. A friend of Ed’s, an astronaut, brought our wedding invitation into space. We’ve got to admit that years later we still think this is “cool,” and sometimes we imagine that having seen our wedding invitation, space or the universe itself smiles upon our family. We live in the suburbs outside of Washington, DC. Our tree-filled backyard is adjacent to county parkland. In winter we can see a small creek meandering by and various forest creatures—deer, birds, and foxes—crossing through our backyard. Twice a year we have a neighborhood block party. On snow days, we have spontaneous neighborhood get-togethers in our house. We enjoy living close to the city with its abundant restaurants, museums, history and theatres. Being Jewish is an important, comfortable part of our family identify. Although we attend services infrequently, we do enjoy major holidays with friends and family. Brooks attended a private Jewish pre-school and Kindergarten and now is entering first grade. However, we are lucky to live in an area with excellent public schools, and do plan eventually to have our children attend our neighborhood schools. We do this all imperfectly. It is often a struggle to get Brooks to bed on time or to keep care of our garden. Toys and stray socks often litter the living room floor. Yet our lives together are sweet and good. Still there is room in our house and in our hearts (oh so much room and desire) for another child. Love, Melanie and Ed